How successful would you like to be? If we’re all honest, most likely we’d say that we would like to be successful at something. It could be to have a successful business or career, or to become successful at a favourite hobby or other pursuit. Some people may say they wish to be a successful parent or partner, or a great gardener or cook.
A more important question than how successful you would like to be is… How successful do you believe you can become?
The difference between a successful person and a person who doesn’t quite seem to make it lies within the products of their mind. A successful person believes they can be successful, they may have a few doubts on the way, but their belief in themself and their abilities pushes them through what I call the “fear barrier”. For example, if they don’t know how to do something to help them on their way, they learn how rather than believe they can’t achieve their goal.
Our thoughts and self talk make a huge difference to what we can create in our lives. This applies to our career, business, health, relationships, hobbies or any pursuit we would like to succeed in and achieve our goals.
Let me tell you about Richard. Richard was working in the IT field, but was miserable, in fact he felt thoroughly stifled. He had a mortgage and felt he couldn’t make a change of career in case it jeopardised his home. At the time, Richard’s self talk was negative, or what I would call “toxic”, and draining his energy. He simply couldn’t see past his situation and he felt trapped.
Richard had a couple of sessions of Touch For Health Kinesiology with me to help with his unhappy state of mind and I asked him what his hobbies were. As it turned out, he worked several hours a week as a volunteer dog trainer for the German Shepherd association, and he was great at it. His eyes lit up as he spoke about it, and I could see he was passionate about it. I asked Richard why doesn’t he do that as a business and be paid for it rather than as a volunteer. It was like a light switch was turned on! At the same time, his self belief took a turn for the better.
Richard started his Perth-based dog training business, Doggonit Obedience, within a few months after that day and has since won two awards, Best New Business and Finalist in Home Based Business such has been his success in just a few years.
Richard says that not only is he growing a successful business, but he himself is growing during the process. He says it has been a wonderful time in his life. Richard has had to deal with any self doubts in a practical fashion to push him through the fear barrier. Naturally, he did his homework too to ensure the viability of such a business.
Self belief is the crucial missing link for many who don’t achieve their goals. Without a strong belief in your abilities, what you can achieve and what you have to offer, you just won’t get there.
Fear-based thoughts and self-talk can cripple growth in your life and are self limiting. Richard’s belief in his abilities as a dog trainer, and his belief that he could make a living from his passion are what made the difference for him. While he felt trapped in his previous job, his belief in himself dwindled. This affected his ability to see and create a better work life – until he allowed himself to think creatively.
Fear-based thoughts deplete your body and mind of vital energy or life force. Touch For Health and other forms of kinesiology show instantly if your goals are being thwarted by your self-talk or thoughts. At the same time kinesiology can help pinpoint where you need to change your thinking, and assists you by removing energy blockages that may hold you back.
If you’re buying into self doubts and not talking to yourself in a supportive way, you are depleting your energy and your belief system, and success may well stay out of reach. My challenge to you is to observe your thoughts about yourself, about others, your abilities and what you have to offer. When you catch yourself being negative – adjust your thinking on the spot.
You have the power to create positive change in all areas of your life by choosing your thoughts carefully.
A healthy belief in yourself and what you have to offer attracts good things into your life. You attract fabulous relationships, great clients, fulfilling work, better health, and supportive friends. It’s up to you to decide…
How successful will you become?
Direct your enquiries to jan@foodbodyandhealth.com.au Jan is a naturopathic nutrition consultant, public speaker, corporate health educator, Touch For Health practitioner, and meditation and stress management teacher. Her latest book is The Eat Well Cookbook – Dairy-Free and Gluten-Free Recipes for Food Lovers (Allen+Unwin, $35).